"Please describe to me how your argument doesn't boil down to "she deserved it because of what she was wearing"?"
A person, whatever they are wearing, is not overly engaging in sexualized interaction.
But if someone writes something overtly sexual on their t-shirt, they are engaging in a communication.
That someone responded to the t-shirt shouldn't be surprising, even if it's unprofessional.
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"I don't think it adds nuance"
It adds nuance because the men, engaging in discussion about 'penetration' without incitement, is something clearly different then the men commenting on the pun that is on another person's shirt.
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"Which is why FUD still works, because muddying the waters "
It's not muddying the waters if you accept that the woman initiated a level of discourse by her own accord.
Consider what would happen if one of your male co-workers wore a t-shirt with an overtly crude, sexual double-etendre about 'penetration' to the office?
"Have you ever been PENETRATED? (wink wink!)"
Surely you'd be outraged that this would be exactly the kind of 'frat boy' culture you're condemning.
I'm certain that I would be told to 'change shirts' immediately, at least at my office.
So how do we then contemplate that a women, who wears such a is not directly engaging in this bad behaviour?
If you wear a t-shirt that says: "Suck My Banana!" to the office, and someone says to you "Ok, I'll Suck Your Banana!" - then who is really 'at fault' of being crude and sexist?
I don't think that Banana has much of a legitimate claim.
A person, whatever they are wearing, is not overly engaging in sexualized interaction.
But if someone writes something overtly sexual on their t-shirt, they are engaging in a communication.
That someone responded to the t-shirt shouldn't be surprising, even if it's unprofessional.
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"I don't think it adds nuance"
It adds nuance because the men, engaging in discussion about 'penetration' without incitement, is something clearly different then the men commenting on the pun that is on another person's shirt.
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"Which is why FUD still works, because muddying the waters "
It's not muddying the waters if you accept that the woman initiated a level of discourse by her own accord.
Consider what would happen if one of your male co-workers wore a t-shirt with an overtly crude, sexual double-etendre about 'penetration' to the office?
"Have you ever been PENETRATED? (wink wink!)"
Surely you'd be outraged that this would be exactly the kind of 'frat boy' culture you're condemning.
I'm certain that I would be told to 'change shirts' immediately, at least at my office.
So how do we then contemplate that a women, who wears such a is not directly engaging in this bad behaviour?
If you wear a t-shirt that says: "Suck My Banana!" to the office, and someone says to you "Ok, I'll Suck Your Banana!" - then who is really 'at fault' of being crude and sexist?
I don't think that Banana has much of a legitimate claim.