I’m a Brit, married to an Iranian who still has a large family in Iran. I’ve got to witness first hand quite the opposite to what you describe, at least with the British mainstream media. With the exception of one religious aunt who is married to a military man, OP’s comment reflects the feeling of all the Iranian family and friends we know. And FWIW, I can point to Iran on a map, and I am not Mossad.
I don't claim to have the answers, and don't necessarily disagree with you. But that's how the Iranians I know insider Iran feel. That there was pain ahead of them with or without intervention.
Iran is on the other side of the Persian Gulf from Dubai, where Iranian tourists flock to buy Disney, Apple and other embargoed products without restrictions.