as an end user it is my problem when trying to complain in the right place

I agree with you.

and the end user can blame Netflix, Prime Video, Disney+, YouTube, etc for not delivering the best experience for their customers. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Or they can blame Apple for delivering a developer experience to those companies that makes those companies not want to play ball.

Not that they likely will, as Apple owns the framing.