The difference is that the API can change without visible API changes.
I don't understand this at all. The performance of a C function can change without any change to the function signature. Even the destructor scenario can happen invisibly in C code for any type that already has a cleanup function. No matter whether the cleanup function is defined as "int myproj_FooCleanup(struct Foo* foo) {...}" or "myproj::Foo::~Foo() {...}", you won't notice implementation changes until runtime.
I'm not talking about the performance of the function itself, I'm talking about the overhead incurred. That can't change in C.
Also, just adding a virtual destructor (without any functionality) adds cost. And unfortunately, you need to if your class happens to become a base class.
I don't understand this at all. The performance of a C function can change without any change to the function signature. Even the destructor scenario can happen invisibly in C code for any type that already has a cleanup function. No matter whether the cleanup function is defined as "int myproj_FooCleanup(struct Foo* foo) {...}" or "myproj::Foo::~Foo() {...}", you won't notice implementation changes until runtime.